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Project Happy


بســــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــم الله الرحمن الرحــيــم

السلام عليكم و رحمة الله وبركاته

Remember when we first started the whole Top 5 regrets of the Dying thing back in April?? Well it’s time to warp that up with the 5th and final regret:
I wish that I had let myself be happier.

From the author:

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

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Lost in Expression


بســــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــم الله الرحمن الرحــيــم

السلام عليكم و رحمة الله وبركاته

The journey of reflecting the Top 5 Regrets of the Dying continues. We had a breakdown of #2 on the Top 5 and we continue with #3 today which is:

I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings”

From the author – Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

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Overdrive


بســــــــــــــــــــــــــــــــم الله الرحمن الرحــيــم

السلام عليكم و رحمة الله وبركاته

We continue to do a breakdown on the Top Five Regrets of the Dying. We analyzed the #1 Regret before and now we’ll look at #2 which happens to be, on the contrary to what we’re told, :
                                       “I wish I didn’t work so hard”

From the original author- “This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.”

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The Living Dead


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السلام عليكم و رحمة الله وبركاته

“For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.
People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them. When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again.” – Reflections from Bronnie Ware.

Here at the Shelter we take a closer look at each of the Top Five regrets of dying. Beginning with #1:

 “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me”

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Strength in Numbers


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السلام عليكم و رحمة الله وبركاته

Why should we today work in a jama’ah? Surely, all these different groups today are a disease in the Ummah, and if anything they are serving to increase the problems. Yes, there are many sincere people working in these jama’ahs but at the end of the day they end up fighting each other so how can they be a good thing, and why should I join these jama’ahs when this will probably mean that I will end up arguing against other Muslim brothers. These are the arguments of the Muslims today against all the different groups that are operating within the Ummah. Continue reading

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